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Talisa Haskins

The Art of Self-Care

Nurturing Yourself for a Healthier, Happier Life

Written by Therapist Talisa Haskins

 

In our fast-paced world, self-care often gets treated like a luxury, something we squeeze in when everything else is done. But what if we flipped the script and treated self-care as essential—something that deserves our time and attention, just like our work, relationships, or daily routines?


At The Journey Counselling and Psychotherapy, we believe self-care is more than just spa days and bubble baths (though those can be wonderful too!). It’s about recognizing your needs, setting boundaries, and making choices that nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Let’s break down what true self-care looks like and how you can make it a sustainable part of your life.


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What is Self-Care, Really?

Self-care isn’t just about pampering yourself; it’s about doing things that genuinely support your well-being. This can range from physical care (getting enough sleep, eating nourishing foods, moving your body) to emotional care (spending time with loved ones, processing your emotions) and mental care (setting boundaries, saying no when needed, engaging in mindfulness).


It’s important to remember that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Without tending to your own needs, it’s much harder to show up fully for others. Think of it like refilling your cup: you can’t pour into someone else’s if yours is empty.


Why Boundaries Matter in Self-Care

A big part of self-care is setting healthy boundaries. Whether it’s in personal relationships, work, or social commitments, boundaries help protect your time and energy. Learning to say “no” when you need to is a powerful act of self-respect. It allows you to prioritize your own needs and prevents burnout.


Take a moment to reflect: Are there areas in your life where you’re overextending yourself? Maybe you’re taking on too many responsibilities at work, or you’re saying “yes” to social invitations when you’re craving quiet time. It’s okay to pause and evaluate where you need more balance. Boundaries help you conserve your energy and maintain your well-being.


Practical Self-Care Tips

Here are a few practical ways to incorporate self-care into your routine:


  • Set aside time for yourself daily. Even 10 minutes of quiet reflection, reading, or a walk can reset your mood and energy.

  • Learn to say no. It’s okay not to be available for every request. Practice saying no with kindness and confidence.

  • Stay connected. Self-care doesn’t mean isolation. Reach out to loved ones, friends, or therapists when you need support.

  • Prioritize rest. Sleep is a cornerstone of well-being. Create a bedtime routine that signals to your brain that it’s time to wind down.

  • Move your body. Exercise releases endorphins and can be a great way to reduce stress. Find movement that feels good to you, whether it’s yoga, walking, or dancing in your living room!


Self-Care Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All

Remember, self-care looks different for everyone. What feels rejuvenating for one person may feel draining to another. The key is to tune in to what you need. Some days, that might be a workout and some social time; other days, it might be binge-watching your favorite show under a cozy blanket. There’s no right or wrong way to do it—there’s only what works for you.


Making Self-Care a Habit

Building self-care into your life takes time, but it’s worth the effort. Start small, and be gentle with yourself. You might begin with one self-care practice each day, like setting a boundary, making a healthy meal, or spending time doing something you love. Over time, these small acts of care build into habits that improve your overall well-being.


 

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